“I’m insecure about everything, because… I’m never going to look in the mirror and see this blond, blue-eyed girl.” — Cher
“I stare at myself in the mirror and I think, ‘Wow, I’m really great-looking.’… I think I’m the greatest, anyway” – Iggy Pop
It’s all about perspective. Cher just turned 65 with all the grace and beauty that plastic surgery and obsessive exercise can deliver. Iggy Pop (63) continues to stage-dive despite numerous injuries, including messy face-plants. Both are recognizable at the blink of an eye and possess visual intensity. Yet, their quotes above show very different self images.
I’ve been a Cher fan since I was 4 years old, growing my hair down to my waist and watching the “Sonny & Cher Show” with sacred reverence. After seeing her Las Vegas show, I still contend she’s one of the century’s best performers.
So, it pains me. How hard it must be for her to constantly try to turn back time– excuse the pun. This is a burden we see a lot of women struggling to do. Our focus always on our college running legs; pre-maternity abs; or childhood skin with nary a wrinkle or sunspot.
It’s time to change our focus!!
Rhonda Byrne’s “The Secret” exploded onto best selling lists in 2006. The philosophical approach to life (think positive thoughts for desired outcomes) is providence to some, profane to others . I suggest that this strategy can prove successful for your Signature Style.
Putting positive thoughts into action is the key. Byrne reminds us that focusing on what we *don’t* want only attracts the negative result. My real estate mentor Wayne Morgan said the great dichotomy is that you get what you avoid. So, tackle your obstacles head on with your eyes on the prize. When applying The Secret to style, I say: Stop obsessing on your perceived flaws and start focusing on your assets!!
Let me be clear. I’m not saying “stop working out” or “smoke away!” Good health is necessary for a happy life. What I AM saying is that if you’re consumed with hiding your perceived flaws, who is promoting your attractive features to the world? If not you, then who?
Build your self-confidence and signature style by picking one thing about your physical appearance that you love the most. Make that feature the center of attention in creating your look every day. Whether it’s your eyes, skin, arms, or legs, make sure it stands out above everything else.
Don’t confuse unique for ugly. Would Meryl Streep be so charismatic if she “fixed” her nose? Would Seal be so endearing to his fans (or Heidi Klum for that matter) if he’d undergone extensive plastic surgery to hide his Lupus scars? And what if Jennifer Lopez thought she had to lipo her bootie off in order to “make it” in showbiz? These folks understand the power of being who you are and embracing your unique features to stand out in a crowd.
Starting today, change your perspective. Highlight your best features first and think of minimizing not-so-desireable features as a secondary act. Need a little extra help? Give me a call.
See Who You Can Be!!